Even if we don’t have a particular ‘other’ writes Liz Winter, there is still plenty of love to go around on Valentine’s Day – and every other day as well…
It Is Here
What sound was that?
I turn away, into the shaking room.
What was that sound that came in on the dark?
What is this maze of light it leaves us in?
What is this stance we take,
To turn away and then turn back?
What did we hear?
It was the breath we took when we first met.
Listen. It is here.
Harold Pinter
Oh to be romanced, to be loved, to desire and be desired! It’s surely something we all want to experience despite the highs and lows.
Every Valentine’s Day we tend to analyse our love lives. If we are happy in love it seems somehow that we are victorious in some way, and if we are single or unhappy in our current relationship we feel justified to indulge in a sorrowful moment for ourselves. If we do receive a Valentine’s card, flower or present we are keen to share the news but if we don’t does that really make us losers in love?
Perhaps there are times in our lives where a partner is part of our destiny and then there are times when we gain far more by going solo.
And yet, it seems natural to want to be loved by someone special and to reciprocate that love. A lover who gets us, someone who makes us feel good about ourselves, someone who is there to support us and let’s not forget the importance of physical chemistry.
Do we have to wait to meet a soul mate or can we make it happen? Perhaps we can.
By taking some control we feel empowered and this can help us enormously when we feel like a failure in love.
Here are some tips I’ve used when I have felt like a faded wallflower preparing my spinster outfits. It can also help if you want to improve the relationship you are in.
- Do your wish list! I can hear you say ‘I’ve already done that, it didn’t work’, but it helps if you review it regularly to keep the energy fresh. Be specific but realistic and also adjust it as time goes on. Read it often and occasionally read it aloud to help bring it in to reality.
- Spruce up your feng shui in the bedroom or the house or both. It is the right hand corner of your house when you are facing the main entrance or the right hand corner of your bedroom when standing at the door. Make a ‘love’ altar. Place things that represent love to you, cut out a picture from a magazine of the sort of partner you would like to attract.
- Affirmations can work wonders. Try ‘I attract my soul mate now’ and then take a moment to really feel how it would be if you were with your soul mate. Affirmations manifest best when married to emotion and visualisation. Make sure you also affirm that you are worthy and deserving of love.
- Become aware how you speak to yourself. Be kind and loving to yourself in thoughts, words and attitudes.
- Take an interest outside yourself. Avoid spending time pining for the right partner. Get out there and give something to the community or perform random acts of kindness. It will make you feel good about yourself and when we radiate positive energy, we attract love wherever we go.
- Keep your friendships active no matter what your marital status is.
- Beware of jealousy of other couples who seem to have a perfect relationship – this attitude will repel love.
- If you need to heal the past and are struggling, try counselling or another healing modality. Ask your Spirit Guides and Angels to direct you to the perfect healer for you.
- Call on the Romance Angels for help and guidance. Call on Archangel Raguel for conflicts in love and Archangel Jeremiel for heart healing.
- Finally, and most importantly, never give up on Love!
All these activities set an intention, and intention can indeed be powerful.
Happy Valentine’s Day…
